Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Beliefs = Formulas



We can change our beliefs or formulas we have created in our mind.

I know just enough algebra and geometry to be dangerous! When I learned how to count and learned numbers, it thought that was math. When I learned letters and words I thought that was reading and writing. (When did a = 2 and x = 8?) Who knew until algebra that the two are combined in order to make sense and balance in an equation? Actually that is the way the brain operates and makes sense of sensory based information that it receives – through formulas. Sensory based information equals something. These formulas become our belief system. As with algebra, the brain formulas need to balance. If the brain is out of balance or has made an incorrect calculation with the formulas, the person is limited or stuck. Formulas constitute beliefs, thinking patterns, problem solving skills, attitudes, and values.

In algebra, when a formula is given both sides may need to be adjusted in order to achieve the correct balance. The brain formulas are much the same. Behavior can be adjusted and shifted, or thinking (believing) patterns can be adjusted and shifted. One of the problems with behavioral modification is that it addresses one side of the formula only – the behavior. When a person is ready to make a change, both sides of their formula must be considered. It is easiest to make a change of the behavior; however often times the behavior is simply the symptom or manifestation of the belief that is driving the behavior. When considering the neurological levels [Environment – Behavior – Capability – Belief – Identity – Spirituality], behavior modification works on the lowest two areas. Most stuck state behaviors are really run at the belief, identity and spiritual levels. This is where the formula comes into play in making adjustment and changes. Richard Bandler suggest “Using Your Brain for a Change.” One of the powerful skills in Neuro Linguistics Programming is that of changing the brain and the thinking patterns and formulas to accelerate and facilitate change.

A strategy is a sequence of internal and external representations that lead to a particular outcome. The way in which we divide experience into “separate” strategies or formulas is to some extent arbitrary. Our thinking patterns affect our behavior. We have formulas that create our beliefs and attitudes which then run our behavior. Assisting a person to identify her/his formulas will assist in identifying limiting beliefs.

Identify a problem state or a situation in which a person would like to have more choices. Put the problem of stuck state into just one word – love, relationship, anger, fear, expectation, procrastination, work, parenting, etc. Share the algebra metaphor as stated above – both sides of the equation must be equal in order to balance. Changes can be made on one or both sides of the equation to facilitate change. Identify what the belief is about that problem in the equation – the formula. Example: love = fear, betrayal, hurt, etc. Identify what else the problem could equal. Example: love = company, fun, accomplishment. Continue changing the formula until the desired response/outcome is reached. Think of places and times where a new formula would be beneficial to assist in having more choices.

Changing formulas can actually be fun and energizing

Make a Great Day

Dr. Susan

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Happiness is a Choice

Dear Readers:

Happiness is a choice. Here are some random and timely thoughts about happiness

The happiness of my life depends on the quality of my thoughts.

A sharp tongue can cut my own throat.

If I want my dreams to come true, I mustn’t oversleep

Of all the things I wear, my expression is the most important

The best vitamin for making friends is – B1

The heaviest thing I ca carry is a grudge

One thing I can give and still keep --- my word

I lie the loudest when I lie to myself.
If I lack the courage to start, I have already finished
The one thing I can’t recycle is wasted time

Ideas won’t work unless I do

My mind is like a parachute – it functions only when open

The 10 Commandments are not a multiple choice

The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what I might have become

Friends are like balloons; once you let them go, you might not get them back. Sometimes we get so busy with our lives and problems that we might not even notice that we have let them fly away. Sometimes we are so caught up in who’s right and who’s wrong; we forget what’s right and wrong. Sometimes we just don’t realize what real friendship is until it is too late.

Practice random acts and thoughts of happiness

Make a Great Day

Dr. Susan

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Happiness is a Choice

Greetings All


“As a man thinketh, so is he” Proverbs

What do you like about yourself? Do you view yourself as being as good as others, better than others, or worse than others?

What has happened good in your life today?

What do you like about your family?

“Energy Flows Where Attention Goes”

Happiness doesn’t depend on where you are, it depends on WHO you are.

The one thing that no one has control over, other than you is your brain and your thoughts.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder:
Every day there are clouds and rainbows,
Every day there is sun and raindrops
Which do you see?

A person is literally what s/he thinks
Lift up your eyes
Stand on your feet
Put a smile on your face

Say a few words of appreciation
Be positive

Where ever you go, There you are

I want to feel good
I want to feel God

I see miracles every day
I believe in prosperity and abundance

Change your thoughts and change your world

My perception is my reality – make it good

Reading Resources:
The Bible God

Man's Search for Meaning Victor Frankel

Feeling Good, The New Mood Therapy
David Burns
The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz
The Power of Positive Intention
Wayne Dyer
5 Love Languages Gary Chapman

The Power of Now
Eckart Tolle

Make a Great Day

Dr. Susan